Just A Little Background On Me.

Hello to y'all out there! I hope y'all are doing well.

I thought I might take the time to tell you folks a little about me, and why I decided to start blogging. First and foremost, I enjoy writing a great deal. Secondly, I have not been able to work outside the home for several years now, due to some serious health problems. I'll tell ya, it is pure HELL to get old! My health problems are mostly due to the aging process, but also due to 'trauma' related injuries', ( a whole other story), and it seems to me that I've been going through menopause for the last 20 years at least!

For those of you lady's who've been there, you know of what I am speaking. Night sweats, that wake you up in the middle of the night, sometimes, more than once, and you have to get out of bed and change your pj's because they are soaked with sweat, or hot flashes that make you feel like you are going to explode into flame at any minute! I am a 60 year old lady, and I have had these symptoms for what seems like an eternity! Now, I'm sure you're saying to yourself, but wait....there are ways to combat those symptoms right? Yes, and no.

When I first started having the night sweats and the hot flashes, I was put on what (back then), was considered the best pharmaceutical drug for menopause, premarin. It did help with the night sweats and the hot flashes, however, after a period of approximately six or seven years, I was abruptly taken off of it, and here is why.... I started having pain in my upper spine, neck,and through my shoulders,and it got so bad that it was disturbing my sleep, and interfering my workday, so I was referred to a spinal surgeon.

I'm really trying to make a long story short here, so bear with me. Anyway, it was determined that I had developed some really bad bone spurs that were sticking out from my vertebrae. The bone spurs were hitting nerves, and supposedly that was the cause of the pain. However, the reason that I was taken off the hormone drug is because when they did an MRI, it showed a brain tumor in the lining of my brain. I was totally and utterly shocked! "A brain tumor"! 'I said'. 'How is that possible'!

I was told that it was highly possible that the hormone I had been taking for years, was the cause of the brain tumor! Oh great! Not only that, but finding a neurosurgeon willing to operate and remove it was almost impossible! Every surgeon that I consulted with considered it too risky to operate because the tumor was sitting right up against my brain stem. The only good thing about this tumor, was the fact that it was not a cancerous one. Meningiomas, which is what I had, are benign tumors that develop in the thin membranes, or meninges, that cover the brain and spinal cord.

Ok, soooo...since I didn't have any real life threatening symptoms, I was more or less told to live with it, at least for a while. The tumor was diagnosed in 2001, and it was 2004, before I finally found a neurosurgeon who was willing to go in after the tumor. He is a Professor in the neuro-surgical part of The Medical University of South Carolina in Charleston. He was, and still is considered the best of the best! I found out that he actually teaches a class dealing with this very same type of brain tumor. Anyway the surgery was a success, and I was very grateful to him.

Now, I hate admitting this to anyone, but at the time of that surgery I weighed in close to 180 lbs. I was real close to being obese. I had promised myself that if I were to get through the brain surgery, I was going to change my eating habits once and for all, and I was going to do it without any pills, diet programs, or the like. I'd been to weight-watchers, and although that program works for some, it just did not work for me.

I started watching everything that I ate. I cut out a lot of calories, and cholesterol, I started drinking water instead of sodas. I cut down on the amount of coffee I would drink in the mornings, because it does dehydrate the body. I started walking and riding my bicycle every day, sometimes twice a day. I had a CD Player that I would strap around my waist and listen to it while I did my housework, dancing around the house! :o)

It gave me more and more energy as time went on, and the pounds just started to melt off. Now, don't get we wrong here.....it took right at a year to loose a little over 60 lbs. It was not easy, but the more I lost the better I felt, and the more it made me want to keep up with it! I have to say that it was the best I'd felt in years.


Anyway, I believe that in one of my earlier posts I was ranting about 'displaced homemakers'........well, my husband and I were having some (personal) marital problems, and we were separated for a period of time. That is why I was ranting about 'displaced homemakers', because I was one during that period of time.

You see, I was part of that generation where the wife stayed at home and raised the kiddies and kept the house, cooked the meals and washed the clothes, while the hubby went out and brought in the bacon. I stayed at home for over 22 years while my children were growing up.

Now, again.........don't get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoyed that time, and being able to stay at home with my children was something that many mothers do not get to do nowadays. I think it helped my children to be more responsible, caring, and loving individuals, and I can't help feeling glad about that. However, it did leave a huge gap in my Social Security, not to mention the fact that I had very little in the way of marketable skills to obtain a good paying job. During the time that the 2nd hubby and I were separated, I became severely depressed. I had a good paying job for a while, but unfortunately, it was also way over my head, and I was dreadfully under-qualified, but I could not turn it down, not when I needed the money so badly.

I lasted almost six months at that job before they let me go. At the time, I was actually grateful when they let me go, because let me tell you, I was so stressed out, I would come home to my apartment after work and throw up my socks! Stress can be a killer!

After that, I had several part-time jobs, all of which ended badly. The depression I was suffering from was affecting my whole physical being. There were days when I could barely function. I had difficulty obtaining any medical help because I just did not have enough money to pay for it. I was lucky to have enough to pay for my groceries. Sooo, as I was saying before I went off on this long-ass story, had I known about this 'displaced homemaker' thing, I might have been able to find more help. Help was definitely NOT something that was very forthcoming! I had to work hard to even find someone that would help, and what help I got was very little. Here is an example - I went to what was known as Legal Aid. This is a department of Social Services that determines the need for financial help.  I of course did NOT qualify.......get this, simply because I was NOT a young mother with little ones at my feet!!  Sighhh. I had no clue how messed up our system of government was until then.

I ended up moving in with my older brother for about a year, until the hubby and I reconciled, and reunited. No, I'm not saying that everything is a bed of roses just yet, but things are finally starting to look up. Oh, by the way, while we were separated I did manage to do something good for myself. I enrolled with Kaplan University 'Online College, and I now have an Associates Degree in Business Management! ((smiles)). I didn't actually think that I would be able to pull it off, but I ended my degree with a 3.83 GPA. Not exactly a 4.0, but I sure wasn't complaining either!!

Now, we shall see where the road takes me from here. Wish me luck, cause I'll need it!

My Blog's Title Page.......

Hello!

I wanted to take a few moments and let you all know that I have just recently changed the title of my Blog.

When I first started out I had given it the title of: 

"It Is My Dream Too, and I Will Have it!"

But I decided it was a little too long and it wouldn't have allowed me to write about all the things that interest me, or those that make me angry, or sad, or just totally bamboozle me altogether!

And.........since I am definitely a baby boomer, I think this name will give me more leeway on the variety of subjects that I might wish to blog about.

Through my research of the subject, I found that there is also a considerable audience pertaining to baby boomers. While doing my research I discovered that,

according to the U.S. Census Bureau

as of July 2005, baby boomers made up a total of 78.2 million, and 50.8% of those were women.



So, now I hope you have an inkling of why I changed the title of my blog. Simply put, I am a baby boomer, therefore I can talk about things other than my dream of being a writer.  I can discuss things that are relevant to my age group, but I can also talk about things that interest me, or things that I am upset about, or that really just piss me off!      :o)


Thanks for visiting me!

~~~Displaced Homemakers~~~

The term "displaced homemaker" means this:

An individual,(usually a women), who has either worked primarily without remuneration to care for a home and family and for that reason has diminished marketable skills.

Or, has been dependent on the income of another family member, (in my case, the hubby), but is no longer supported by that income, for whatever reason.

Or, is a parent whose youngest dependent child will become ineligible to receive assistance under part A of title IV of the Social Security Act(42 U.S.C.601 et seq.) not later than 2 years after the date on which the parent applies for assistance under such title; and is unemployed or underemployed and is experiencing difficulty in obtaining or upgrading their employment.

(As described by the Illinois Center for Specialized Professional Support)

Wow, I wish I had known WHAT I was, WHEN I was!!

Maybe then I would have known where to go for help, or what I needed to do to save myself a LOT of frustration, desolation, hopelessness, anxiety, and depression.

Oh well, here it comes, you know like the proverbial, "Water Under the Bridge", or "No Use Crying Over Split Milk", "Too Little Too Late". You get the picture.

I will NOT go into detail about my experience as a (displaced homemaker), suffice it to say that it was not only NOT enjoyable, it was pure and utter HELL! I don't recommend it that is for sure! If you are a baby boomer make sure to get your 'ducks in a row' before you go traipsing off into NeverLand like I did.  In other words, make sure you have a NEST-EGG to fall back on. A sizable financial one!

Bernake - Time magazine's Person of the Year! Ohhh Pleeassssse!

I'll make this statement short and to the point. I am sorry, but I'm not believing what is going on in our U.S of A. these days. Time magazine has presented Ben Bernake, (an evil monster as far as I am concerned), with the honor of being 'Person of the Year'. Hold on a moment.....I need to go throw-up!

Confidence In Oneself.

Okay, Yes, I love to write, and yes, mostly about me, and/or anything that I might have some experience with. The thing is, most of what I write is to me. What that means is, I lack the confidence that I so desperately need to actually write something that someone else might read. Yikes! It gives me the willies just thinking about it! LOL. Well, I was surfing the net today, (I love to research), as I usually do, and I ran across a very interesting and intuitive article that could easily have been written for me, and who knows, maybe it was!

Anyway, it was on a free article site, so I decided to post it here for everyone to see. This author got my goat....and my number! A lot of what she said makes perfect sense. Now, all I need is the mindset! I mean really, if I spend the rest of my life worrying about what other people think, well.......as this author explains it, one will never accomplish ones goals! See the article below, and be sure to leave any comments please and thank you!

Confidence - Why it Matters Bigtime!

Confidence can be developed by believing in yourself and having faith in your abilities. Do not be discouraged. We all have to start somewhere. Experts were not always experts. If you know where you are going the world will move over and make room for you. You must have self-respect as this permeates and affects every part of your life. You must have confidence in yourself or you will find the race of life very difficult. If you have nurtured self-confidence you will have won before you have started.


Whatever you confidently expect becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy. So train yourself to expect only the most favorable outcomes.

If you have the belief that you can accomplish a task then you will acquire the capacity to do it even though you did not have it at the start.


Genuine confidence is what gets you out of bed in the morning with a spring in your step. If you have a clear plan in your mind about where you want to go in life this will give you a brilliant feeling of personal power and confidence. So write out your goals and enjoy achieving them.


You must feel good about yourself and nurture this on a daily basis. Tell yourself regularly that you are a good and worthwhile person.

Know and be aware of your personal value. Confidence breeds success. Act like the person you want to become. Do this and people will start seeing you as that person and treat you accordingly. Another way to gain confidence is to do one thing that scares you. By confronting your fears, you will find that you gain strength and belief in yourself. Not doing the things we know we should do causes us to feel guilty and guilt leads to a depletion of self-confidence. As our self-confidence diminishes, so does the level of our activity. This, in turn, leads to
poorer results and we move from positive to negative thoughts decreasing our self-confidence even more.

So take action when you need to in order to keep yourself out of this downward spiral.



Article Source: http://www.ArticleStreet.com/profile/carsula-17163.html

About the Author:

Hi, I am Cheryl Smith and I am passionate about helping other people improve their lives. For a quality video about building confidence which will not cost you a penny please visit Cheryl Smith - My Confident Life


Wow! Amazing don't you think? Take the time to check out her link, it's worth it! This has inspired me to jump in and give this writing stuff a real chance, just to see where it leads me. Stay tuned all!